“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.”
The man is the prime person in a relationship that begins a family. According to tradition, he chooses a woman who he believes would be ideal as a wife and most likely as a mother later. Therefore, it is important that when a man chooses a spouse that she is compatible with him. The decision is more than a physical connection but the spiritual is crucial. It is this aspect that binds the family together when all else fails. When the man chooses a wife, it is crucial that he treats her with uttermost love and care. Bro Paul advises in 1 Corinthians 7:3 “let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence; and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” In addition, Ephesians 5:25 says that “husbands should love their wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,” meaning make time for her as Christ made time for the church. Husbands should spend quality time with their wives to forge a deeper bond that began during courtship. Having a strong connection coupled with help from God deters negative external forces from battering the marriage.