Category Archives: RELATIONSHIPS

It Warms My Heart #4


It is a very common sight to see people giving graciously during the Christmas/ New Years Season. The homeless people get treated to soup on a colder day and many poorer families receive food and clothes hampers. I applaud anyone who takes time out to give regardless of the motives of the giver. When a hungry child receives a meal, it is a blessing just to see that child belly full and smiling again. It is an unspoken common feeling that when children hurt everyone hurts no matter age, ethnicity and class.

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It Warms My Heart #3


Source: Girl Reading (1889), by Fritz von Uhde. Oil paint on canvas via

One of my happiest moments is when I am in a comfortable place wrapped up in a lovely story. Reading helped create my ever spinning imagination, my imagination is where I am, me, in peace. I  am thankful for my parents especially my mother,who always encouraged my siblings and I to read. I still  remember the square small editions of children stories, now lost because of moves and playing library.

As an adult, I pass on the need for reading by encouraging my little sister and niece to read their required school material and to read for pleasure. I have always made it a practise to buy them books even before they could talk. It warms my heart that my girls like reading, they will pick up a book for their relaxation.


I love when parents read to their children or read with them, they are not only nurturing the love for reading but spending time together. Bedtime reading is absolutely cool and no matter what route reading material goes, reading is here to stay.

Read stories to the little ones in your family this weekend and help them grow an imagination which is essential for diversity. Did you grow up reading? If yes, did it play any role with your reading habits now? If you did not grow up reading, what got you into reading? Let me know in the comment section below.



No White Flag: No Surrender


Love Forever

In response to The Daily Post’s writing prompt: “Enough Is Enough.”

Me: I saw you with her yesterday morning. I thought you said you haven’t spoken to her in months.
You: It was just a coincidence that we meet downtown.
Me: You look pretty cosy…
You: Babe…

Another broken heart, another disappointment that maybe I am not meant for a romantic love relationship. If it happens more than twice that means something is wrong with me, not them right? Just more confirmation for me that love and I should stay at opposite ends of the sphere. The excuses are the same, maybe with a slight variation but the main reasons of cheating and lying stays the same. It becomes easier after the first or second time but the heart still hurts. There is no more ‘us’ but ‘you’ and ‘me.’ No more planning for the future just the memories of yesterday to go over and over. Analysing every detail to figure out how did I miss that red flag, until my head starts pounding. I screamed “this is it I am done with love,” calling all my girlfriends to tell them the great news. Romantic love and I are at war. I have my game face and bleep attitude to every guy who simply said hi. I was bitter, I knew it but my reasoning was protection for my heart.

If I did not protect my heart, who would? I mean look what the others guys did, do you really believe those other guys are different?

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Media & Race: Blame Them?


The Media & Race

Some media houses  create a divide between ethnic groups who are ready to rock bottom each other. They deliberately pick the stories which are sensational and willingly many members of the public embrace its mockery on later immigrants. “Celebrities” fly across for grand parades fuelling citizens with grandeur of hope that this will be the case which makes our country better. Our society is all about famous people and how they live their lives, so you can imagine if Mr. So & So shows up for a protest how people would react. Die-hard fans/stans would quickly tune to various social networks or travel to the event. Immediately you have a show stopper. In my belief this is what happened of the untimely death of Trayvon Martin. I knew that entire fun fair would cripple a proper investigation because of heightened tensions exacerbated by famous people who thought this is the time. However, tread very careful with protest movements involving a murder. They are either effective or harmful, there is no in between result.

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Why Do Men Cheat?: 5 Simple Female Perspectives



It is interesting to note that many times before a woman receives ‘evidence’ that her mate is cheating, she pokes around looking for clues. In that case, if you think your man is creeping around then either you are paranoid or simply put he is cheating. I do not know if it has to do with the theory of Women Intuition, craziness or CIA skills [or a mixture of all three] but most times, when a woman claims her man’s a cheat, turns out she is right. When a relationship ends the woman racks her brain, to figure the reason her boyfriend cheated. After listening to my male and female friends, family and myself for years about men and cheating, I share with you my top 5 simple general reasons for a man’s infidelity.

5. He was never serious about you. He was on the prowl for fresh meat and you were looking for a connection. Immediately he used his smooth words and fake profile and whilst you are building a connection, Mr. Mac Daddy grinned his teeth all week waiting to fill his friends in on your naïvety, on the weekend. He did not have hopes to keep you longer than his usual appetite of ‘I am filled with the new girl.’ He is the type who wan to join in everything you do and he subtly uses various scenarios in his past relationship to show how you are the best thing that ever happened to him. Take note, when you have to ask details/introductions about his family and friends yet he endeavours to know you better than your mother, in a short space of time.

4. He has a wife/girlfriend. Mr. Mac Daddy has a main squeeze somewhere out there that he is basically cheating on with you. Suddenly you become the other woman with no prior knowledge of ‘her.’ This one is simple, you are play toys for him. After spending time with him you will pick up the patterns of phone calls and online chats, try contacting him outside your usual smooch times discovery channel.P.S You should watch the Other Woman[Romantic Comedy] with Cameron  Diaz.

3. You are unfaithful. He may not discover your cheating ways early but he picks up on your endless girls night out. He may forgive you or cheat on you for revenge. No sane man would take lightly, that another man is boning his wife/ girlfriend. So before you go out discovering yourself in that way, consider how much you care about your man doing you the same.

2. Let’s talk about sex baby . He is not satisfied, no matter how many frisky moves you learn. Men do not play with sex, if your food is not filling him adequately, soon another woman’s gymnastics skills will pull him away from your sheets to hers, again and again. If he is a very sexual person and you are withholding sex from him for any particular reason, then chances are some other woman is fulfilling his libido. He may love you but when that mating scent arouses , you are out of mind until he hits calm again.

1. He wants to end the relationship,. Hmmm, remember when Usher said “When your feeling ain’t the same and your body don’t want to but you know gotta let it go cause the party ain’t jumpin’ like it used to…?” Well he does not feel the same about the relationship, he craves the insane rush he once felt at the beginning of the union. He met another girl, who set his soul on fire and puff, he willingly lets her suck him in. Maybe your personality changed or he is a different person or the physical thing which made his heart leap disappeared he is not attracted to you anymore. Sometimes he is too much of a coward to call it quits either because he fears you are psycho and may kill him or he just does not want to see that heartbroken look on your face. Chances are he is hoping that you find out his extra curricular activities, so you could dump him instead of he calling it quits.

What I Need My Daughter to Know Today


Excellent and beautiful words of encouragement.

A Step onto the Road


Today, it hurts. Everything aches because you live in this horrible world of humans and that’s what humans do. They suffer and they make others suffer too. It’s one of the sad things about life: that we need to feel the bitter sadness in order to be filled up with joy. Here’s some things you may want to know when the good days seem far away.

1)      People suck. They are mean and cruel and selfish and oblivious. They will never treat you the way you deserve to be treated because they are too busy looking out for themselves. All people, even nice ones. We’re all selfish. We will all let you down at some point, not because we don’t love you. Not because you are not amazing. Because we are human, and humans are flawed.

2)      Getting revenge never feels as good as you think it will. Remember…

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5 Reasons You Should Never Settle


Hmmm! Thought provoking.

James Michael Sama

As I sit here to write this article, I’m in our hotel room overlooking the beach. The waves sound so close you feel like you can put your hand out the window and touch them. My girlfriend is making coffee. Her tanned skin is accentuated even further by the stark white walls. The rays of sun are coming through the blinds signaling a new day has begun. Michael Bublé is permeating the room from my laptop speakers.

Next to me on the table is this month’s copy of Esquire, the cover of which is beckoning us with “84 Things A Man Should Do Before He Dies.” And I sit here thinking to myself – no matter how many failures I face or how hard life becomes, I refuse to settle.

You can settle for less than you deserve in many areas of life. A job you can’t stand going to…

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Move Over Boaz



I know, I know you are wondering who is this silly person who is questioning the beloved Boaz. So many believers like very much the character Boaz because of Ruth. Saying “oh hold on your Boaz is around the corner.”

Can I be frank?

Urghhhhh! This Boaz talk makes me cringe so much! Is Boaz the only eligible man from the bible? What is so attractive about Boaz? Is it his caring nature towards a woman: he felt his heart-strings tugged every time she came to his fields. Or is it because he was an older man with a larger purse! Now be honest, for all those woman who is waiting for their “Boaz,” what is attractive about him.

There are many other quality men from the bible that I hear many people admire in other circumstances but when dating and marriage comes up, so many want a Boaz.

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Hangover with Embarrassment: 15 Examples of No Regrets



The list is infinite. So I will share just a few.

I let my emotions control my reasoning and I wake up the next day with the mother of all embarrassments.
Yet there were times, I live for the moments of my random and self fulling silly stuffs I have done and heck I still have no regrets.

1. The first time I bought a KitKat bar, my only intentions was to hear a sound. You know that cracking sound in the commercial, when someone breaks a piece of the bar. Well,I never heard the sound but on the plus side, KitKat dark chocolate is now a favourite snack.

2. I smelled the chemicals in the Lab at school when the teacher warned us against it. (Maybe that accounts for a few of the loose screws in my head)

3. I kept love texts messages for years after receiving them. I guess that was part of me holding on to the guy but the good thing is one day I grabbed my phone and deleted them.

4. Every time I bought a book I would buy a bookmark. It was an odd habit. It started when I book a novel from a store but I intended to start reading right away,so I bought a bookmark. However, why I continued that practised, I have no idea but I stopped. I collect bookmarks but not in that buy a book and a bookmark at the same time weird way.

5. I must turn off my cell phone before I go to bed at nights .

6. I do not like have cats around me but I think they look adorable in some photos.

7. I would force my eyes to stay open just to read a few more pages of an interesting book.

8. I like sports but when I do watch, I always check out for the cute guys and he always ends up as a favourite for that particular sport.

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