Mom shouts: “Ecclesiastes 12:1: Remember now thy Creator in the days of thy youth, whilst the evil days come not, nor the years draw nigh, when thou shalt say; I have no pleasure in them.”
Arianne says angrily “Oh great, go ahead make me feel guilty about my life. It is my life and I should do whatever I want with it. Hello! It is the 21st century, hooray to freedom.”
Dad says “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise).”
Arianne frustratingly answers “Did you forget verse 4… And ye, fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
I can never speak to you because you always act so self-righteous. Greg always listens to me; I rather spend time over at his place than here.”
Screaming only hurts! I know I know you have heard that a million times. Well then start acting and stop screaming. When you start screaming at your child you make him/her feel like Jerry cornered by Tom. For a lifetime I have watched Tom swirl around in circles trying to devour Jerry and he never won. There were the few times when Tom and Jerry united forces to trick the dog. See, co-operation is the key: parents and children in harmony. Therefore parents if you keep screaming at your children sooner than later, they will tune you out. They would rather go to ‘Greg’s’ to spend all their free time. Do you really know Greg? Do you know his parents and their values? Yes think! Whilst you are hurling bible scriptures at your son or daughter, it is not penetrating their core. By the way shouldn’t you be sharing the scripture with love? Charity begins at home, before you administer to the wounds of the kids in the community reach out to yours. I am not saying that you should not act firm when the time comes to discipline but screaming should never be an option when you are communicating with your child.
Jesus says in Matthew 19:14 “Jesus said, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Hurling bible scriptures does not encourage anyone to Christ. Jesus did not scream when he spoke about his father’s plan for our lives. Remember when you were their age and you promise you would never scream like your mom/dad did? Break that cycle, crash it and put it in the garbage bin, let the sanitary workers take it away. Let your household be a place that everyone would speak in an orderly fashion. Stop screaming and talk (not nag) and it would be the beginning of a peaceful home. Yes home, not house. A home is a place where children eagerly want to return. Do you have teenagers? Are they increasingly spending more time away from the house and it is has little to do with your cooking? Are you always screaming or shouting? It could be one of the reasons.