“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.”
The man is the prime person in a relationship that begins a family. According to tradition, he chooses a woman who he believes would be ideal as a wife and most likely as a mother later. Therefore, it is important that when a man chooses a spouse that she is compatible with him. The decision is more than a physical connection but the spiritual is crucial. It is this aspect that binds the family together when all else fails. When the man chooses a wife, it is crucial that he treats her with uttermost love and care. Bro Paul advises in 1 Corinthians 7:3 “let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence; and likewise also the wife unto the husband.” In addition, Ephesians 5:25 says that “husbands should love their wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it,” meaning make time for her as Christ made time for the church. Husbands should spend quality time with their wives to forge a deeper bond that began during courtship. Having a strong connection coupled with help from God deters negative external forces from battering the marriage.
Sooner or later the husband and wife decide to have children, immediately the role of the man/husband magnifies. Ephesians 6: 23 says “for the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” The husband is head of the family and his role is to manage the affairs of his family with the help the Lord. He is taking proper care of his wife and now he is daddy. God has blessed him with children. With the support his wife, the husband has to do according to Proverbs 22:6, “train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” Training up a child is more than financially supporting him/her but catering for the child’s emotional needs. If you expect the child to love the Lord, it is you daddy who has to set the example. Frequently, children who show a disdain fear of God fear their daddy. It is up to you daddies to show affection to your boys and girls, making it easier for them to forge a personal relationship with God through Christ. Then the child would reverence God instead of fearing God with severity. Fathers make time for your children through conversation. If you want your children to grow up in Christ, tell them about Christ. Furthermore, it is extremely important husbands along with their wives should speak to children about their health. Help them understand the various changes that their bodies go through, do not leave the task for the teachers or a friend.
Husbands/man, God has blessed you with a wife and children appreciate them and take care of them. If you do not, you will dismantle an institution created by God. A dismantle family include rebellious, broken and a disheartened wife. Being a husband and a father do not come with a manual nor can you go to school to earn points but you can seek the counsel of God to guide you through.